Some examples of our calls
Our calls fall into two categories, the regular callers and the
one off callers.
For our regular callers, we provide a lifeline.
Sometimes we are the only voice they hear in a day. For our other
callers, we are there for isolated problems that can’t always be talked through
with family or friends.
To preserve anonymity all names and places have been changed.
Norman from Brighton is a man of 50 with learning difficulties. When his mother
died 6 years ago, although supported by social services, he was incapable of the
most simple tasks. How would he know what filling to put in his sandwich? How could
he dry his socks when it was raining? How could he come to terms with the loss of
his beloved mother? Norman called us regularly and over the years we have empowered
him to help himself. He now has a job in a supermarket, goes to a maths class and
has learnt calligraphy. He now calls on an occasional basis and never fails to thank
us for being there for him.
Tracy, a lady in her thirties, suffers with severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
to the extent that she cannot leave her home, throw anything away or eat anything
she hasn’t cooked herself. She lives in her room in squalor and is wasting away.
Her family is dysfunctional and her mother can be heard screaming in the background.
Social services have more or less given up on her, but we provide a lifeline. She
is listened to. We can’t change her appalling existence but she has said after talking
to us she feels better for a few hours and maybe even gets some sleep.
Mrs B who is a lady in her 70s called only once. Her husband of 50 years had died
a few days prior to her call. She had sat shiva and been surrounded by family and
friends. Then the shiva ended and everyone went home. It was 10.30 at night, too
late to call anyone close to her, and she couldn’t face going to bed. We talked
for an hour, she reminisced about her husband and talked about her fears for the
future and at the end of the call, she was ready to sleep.
Yossi, a 16 year old boy from a religious family fears he might be gay. He is so
filled with shame that he cannot talk to anyone in his community. We talked about
his feelings and his options and he really appreciated having the issues understood
and not being judged.